Honestly?

So I'm going to write about 2 subjects in this blog, but I feel that they are similar in a lot of ways and somewhat related, so I thought they should be grouped together. Both of these things, have in more recent years started to really irritate me. Or perhaps I've only just recently noticed just how often people do these things.

First I hate when people build other people up in there minds. Whether it be someone you think of romantically or even just simply idolize or look up to. I just see this as a sure way to have people disappoint you. I can't tell you how many people do this too, a lot! They either upon limited knowledge or encounters with an individual, or with ones they once knew fairly well but have not seen or spoken with for sometime, start expanding and elaborating on this person's characteristics and traits they are not familiar with. Partially based upon what they do know about this individual to be true, but the rest of this person's personality is completely fabricated. Most often these elaborations and fabrications make this individual more like the other person wants them to be. After a certain point though the individual now is a complete fabrication and nothing like their true self. Which now is no competition for who the person has envisioned them to be. This is the part that frustrates and irritates me. The individual did nothing wrong, they were themselves the entire time. The person however has built them up to imaginary perfection to which no one could measure.
I have known of at least one occurance where I fell short to someone's expectation of me. (Possibly why I do feel so strongly about this process) At first I felt so horrible that I had disappointed this person, when in actuality it was to no fault of my own. I was simply myself, which didn't match up against who this person had built me up to be.

The Second thing that irritates me and that I don't understand why anyone would do this, is when people convince themselves that they feel a certain way. Whether it be how they feel about someone or something. This I also cannot believe how many people actually do.
The Bible tells us that the heart is treacherous, so I don't understand why someone would start contridicting their brain also. If I know I feel this way for a certainty, why would I start forcing myself to try to think that I feel another way about the same thing. To me it's like a math equation that doesn't add up. If X=1 that doesn't mean that when you look at X upside down or at a different angle, or with your eyes squinted and X starts to blur, that it equals something else now. It still equals 1, not 2 or Y or anything else but 1.
When people do this I just always see it blowing up in their faces. Cause you can't lie to yourself or hide how you truely feel about something for that long without the truth coming out. Often in the result of someone or yourself getting hurt.

I think that if we all just stick to what we do know, and not what we don't know, we will be disappointed less and even pleasantly surprised now and then. Don't try and make anything something that it's not, be it a person or thing, or even our own feelings toward something. Stay true to yourself and the facts.