Honestly?

So I'm going to write about 2 subjects in this blog, but I feel that they are similar in a lot of ways and somewhat related, so I thought they should be grouped together. Both of these things, have in more recent years started to really irritate me. Or perhaps I've only just recently noticed just how often people do these things.

First I hate when people build other people up in there minds. Whether it be someone you think of romantically or even just simply idolize or look up to. I just see this as a sure way to have people disappoint you. I can't tell you how many people do this too, a lot! They either upon limited knowledge or encounters with an individual, or with ones they once knew fairly well but have not seen or spoken with for sometime, start expanding and elaborating on this person's characteristics and traits they are not familiar with. Partially based upon what they do know about this individual to be true, but the rest of this person's personality is completely fabricated. Most often these elaborations and fabrications make this individual more like the other person wants them to be. After a certain point though the individual now is a complete fabrication and nothing like their true self. Which now is no competition for who the person has envisioned them to be. This is the part that frustrates and irritates me. The individual did nothing wrong, they were themselves the entire time. The person however has built them up to imaginary perfection to which no one could measure.
I have known of at least one occurance where I fell short to someone's expectation of me. (Possibly why I do feel so strongly about this process) At first I felt so horrible that I had disappointed this person, when in actuality it was to no fault of my own. I was simply myself, which didn't match up against who this person had built me up to be.

The Second thing that irritates me and that I don't understand why anyone would do this, is when people convince themselves that they feel a certain way. Whether it be how they feel about someone or something. This I also cannot believe how many people actually do.
The Bible tells us that the heart is treacherous, so I don't understand why someone would start contridicting their brain also. If I know I feel this way for a certainty, why would I start forcing myself to try to think that I feel another way about the same thing. To me it's like a math equation that doesn't add up. If X=1 that doesn't mean that when you look at X upside down or at a different angle, or with your eyes squinted and X starts to blur, that it equals something else now. It still equals 1, not 2 or Y or anything else but 1.
When people do this I just always see it blowing up in their faces. Cause you can't lie to yourself or hide how you truely feel about something for that long without the truth coming out. Often in the result of someone or yourself getting hurt.

I think that if we all just stick to what we do know, and not what we don't know, we will be disappointed less and even pleasantly surprised now and then. Don't try and make anything something that it's not, be it a person or thing, or even our own feelings toward something. Stay true to yourself and the facts.

Back in the Good Old Days

I often think of how things that remind of us of our childhood or years long past, we are particularly fond of. Whether it be an old tv show, a classic songs that brigns us back, sometimes even certain types of food, or even familar long time friends.
Now I myself am very nostalgic. I hold onto many things and memories for a variety of reasons. I wouldn't say that I live in the past, which I consider to be potentially dangerous, but always try to keep that past close to me. To remind me of where I've been and how I've got to become who I am today.

I do find it interesting that so many, including myself, refer to our times as a child or even perhaps just years ago as the good old days. I think that one reason that memories and things that remind us of these "good old days" is because we often remember the good things about that time, possibly even building up just how happy we actually were at that time.

After much thought and contemplation I really tried how to recall how I felt in my "good old days" and honestly don't think that at the time I really thought that it was going to be a highlight in my life, probably couldn't have listed you one positive thing at that time about how good my life was then. Just how good the "good old days" actually are I think can only be fully realized only until much time has passed and your new experiences cause you to build up a time when you life did not contain many of the stresses and anxieties as it does now. But if think that in 10, 20, 30 years (If this system continues that is. I'm sure none of this would be true in the new order.) when we look back at the time we are living in now we will it the "good old days". I just find it all interesting that we can't fully appreciate the time we are living in while we are living in it, for the most part.
Granted I am sure that some do. And there are moments of fantasticness and pure joy that we readily recognize as they occur. Just wish that we, I, could feel like that about the time I am living. Without being pessimistic or unrealistic that is. Maybe that's why there are some that choose to live each day as it comes and live in the moment. Although I wish there was some sort of middle ground. Where we could look and plan for a hopeful and happy future, while still appreciating life and greatness that we are living in at the time.

These are the Good Days. Bad things happen, and will happen. But if our wonderful childhood and even teenage years teach us anything is that we , for the most part, reflect more on all the good things and happy memories we have of that time. All those bad things often fade into the distance, or at least become dull and not nearly as painful with time. So the same will be true with anything tramatic in our lives right now. We need to dwell on what makes us happy, things that we enjoy, and people we love.